It has come to my attention that there is a terrible rumor going around about men: that we're selfish in bed. Hey, I'll admit, there's not a man I know who will decline oral sex from a woman he fancies. I mean, it's a blowjob! It's one of the all-time greatest discoveries—just ahead of Columbus finding America. Still, I take issue with this rumor.
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Things you buy through our links may earn New York a commission. One of the more unexpected lessons the universe offered up last week is that the spectrum of male attitudes toward cunnilingus is anchored by DJ Khaled on one end, with the Rock holding down the other. Which is something sex researchers already knew well, at least when it comes to heterosexual relationships a study published last year in the Journal of Sex Research found that both men and women in same-sex couples have oral sex more frequently than those in opposite-sex couples, and that women, in particular, were more likely to enjoy it. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, a nationally representative survey of adults in the U. In a study published last year. We talked to 11 sex therapists about gender imbalances in oral sex, what they hear about it from the people they see particularly among heterosexual couples , and the advice they give when they see it causing an issue in relationships.
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Lack of oral sex came alongside a general lack of commitment to my sexual pleasure, unless it was easy and complemented what he wanted to do anyway. When it came to oral sex he would recoil as if disgusted I guess I just thought there was something wrong with my vagina. Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Marie-Claire Chappet. Remember when DJ Khaled announced that he does not, as a rule, go down on women? Maybe your mind has safeguarded your memory by blocking out this disturbing statement.
At a certain point in their sex lives, many straight men have a critical realization: Vaginas aren't gross. Neither is cunnilingus. In fact, contrary to stereotypes that most straight men hate going down on ladies, for many men giving oral sex is just as good as getting it. According to data from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior , a majority of millennial men reported having performed oral sex on their female partners in the past year — and it wasn't just for reciprocity's sake. Debby Herbenick, one of the survey's researchers and an associate professor at Indiana University, told Mic that "the vast majority" of young men enjoy cunnilingus quite a lot. Men's reasons for loving a little tongue action are manifold, but they mostly stem from the same fundamental and not totally shocking truth: Women like being eaten out, making that in itself a worthwhile pursuit. For many especially enthusiastic men, though, cunnilingus is about way more. Mic asked millennial men why they enjoy performing oral sex on their female partners, whether they think it's important to having a vibrant sex life and whether they think they're any good at going down.
